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Sibling Bullying and Abuse: Reasons, Types, Signs and Prevention
Bullying is a major concern that spans age and settings, sparing no space from its reach. Usually, bullying is connected with school and online spaces. We often forget other bullying behaviors like sibling bullying and abuse. In this article, we will explore the causes behind sibling bullying, its diverse forms, red flags to pay attention to, and most importantly, effective strategies for parents to both avert and tackle such conduct.
Common Reasons for Sibling Bullying and Abuse
- Jealousy and competition
- Power imbalance
- Modeling behavior
- Lack of communication skills
- Copying parental behavior
- Seeking attention
- Personal insecurities
- Unresolved conflicts
- External stressors.
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Types of Sibling Bullying and Abuse
Physical Bullying
Physical bullying entails employing force or aggression to intimidate or cause harm to a sibling. This can include hitting, pushing, kicking, or any other physical actions intended to exert control or cause physical pain.
Psychological Bullying
Psychological bullying is a subtle yet damaging form of abuse where one sibling manipulates another's emotions, self-esteem, and perceptions. This can involve tactics like spreading rumors, exclusion, and using psychological pressure to gain control or dominance.
Sexual Bullying
Sexual bullying involves inappropriate and coercive behaviors of a sexual nature between siblings. This can encompass unwanted advances, comments, or actions that create a hostile environment, causing emotional distress and violating personal boundaries.
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Symptoms of Sibling Bullying and Abuse
- Unexplained marks or bruises
- Frequent feelings of unease
- Marks from self-harm or expressing thoughts of self-harm
- Decline in school performance
- Fear or anxiety around a particular sibling
- Rapid fluctuations due to stress
- Refusal to be alone with the sibling
- Low self-esteem
- Running away from home
- Sleep disturbances or changes in sleep patterns
- Inappropriate sexual behavior.
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Effects of Sibling Bullying and Abuse on Children’s Mental Health
- Diminished confidence and self-worth
- Triggering depression
- Anxiety due to fear
- Social isolation
- Trust issues
- Internalized aggression
- Decline in concentration and grades
- Potential engagement in self-destructive behavior
- Eating disorders
- Effects can extend into adulthood.
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How Parents can Protect Children from Sibling Bullying and Abuse
Set Clear Boundaries
Try to establish firm rules that unequivocally condemn any form of aggressive behavior or bullying between siblings. Communicate consequences for crossing these boundaries, reinforcing the importance of respect and kindness.
Positive Reinforcement
Parents should acknowledge and reward instances of respectful interactions and cooperation between siblings. This encourages a culture of kindness and reinforces the benefits of treating each other with respect.
Model Respectful Behavior
It is important to demonstrate kindness, empathy, and respectful communication in parents' interactions with others, including their children. Children often learn by example, and seeing respectful behavior from adults sets a powerful precedent for sibling interactions.
Read more: How physical punishment affects children and alternative ways to discipline them
Individual Attention
Parents should spend quality time with each child. This helps build strong bonds and reduces feelings of rivalry. It also fosters a sense of belonging, decreasing the likelihood of resorting to bullying for attention.
1 year ago
Vinicius Junior says Spanish league ‘now belongs to racists’ after enduring more abuse
Vinícius Júnior was subjected to racist abuse yet again on Sunday with the Brazil star saying the Spanish league "now belongs to racists."
The latest abuse against Vinícius came in Real Madrid's 1-0 loss at Valencia, a match that had to be temporarily stopped after the Brazil forward said he was insulted by a fan behind one of the goals at Mestalla Stadium.
"It wasn't the first time, or the second or the third. Racism is normal in LaLiga. The competition thinks it's normal, as does the federation, and the opponents encourage it," Vinícius said on Instagram and Twitter. "The league that once belonged to Ronaldinho, Ronaldo, Cristiano (Ronaldo) and (Lionel) Messi now belongs to racists ... But I'm strong and I will fight until the end against the racists. Even if far from here."
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The 22-year-old Vinícius, who is is Black, has been subjected to racist abuse since moving to Spain five years ago.
Real Madrid coach Carlo Ancelotti considered replacing the star forward after Vinícius said fans at Mestalla chanted "monkey" toward him. He said Vinícius initially didn't want to continue playing.
"What happened today shouldn't happen," Ancelotti said. "When a stadium yells 'monkey' to a player, and the coach considers taking him out of the field because of that, it means that there is something bad in this league."
The veteran coach refused to talk about the game after what happened, saying his team's loss meant nothing.
"The game should have been stopped," Ancelotti said. "This shouldn't happen. It wasn't only one person, as it has happened in several stadiums. Here, it was a stadium racially insulting a player, the game had to stop. I would have said the same thing if it was 3-0 for us. You have to stop the game, there was no way around it."
Ancelotti said he asked the referee to stop the match, but was told that the protocol was to first make an announcement to fans, then take other action if the problem continued.
Ancelotti said Vinícius didn't want to keep playing but he told the player that he wasn't guilty of anything and that he was the victim. Madrid goalkeeper Thibaut Courtois said he would have left the field with Vinicius if his teammate had decided to stop playing.
"Vinícius is upset, obviously, but more than upset, he is sad," Ancelotti said.
According to Spanish media reports, Valencia has identified two fans who allegedly insulted Vinícius behind one of the goals.
Some comments on social media claimed fans were saying the Spanish word "tonto" (silly) instead of "mono" (monkey).
Valencia later said it expected Ancelotti to apologize to Valencia fans for accusing them of racism after misunderstanding what was said. The coach told a news conference that the referee wouldn't have started the racism protocol if he didn't think there was racism in the stadium.
Vinícius was later sent off after an altercation with Valencia players, and gestured to home fans about their team's fight against relegation as he left the field. Valencia took a huge step toward avoiding the drop with the 1-0 victory opening a five-point gap to the bottom three teams entering the final three rounds.
"The reward for the racists was my ejection!" Vinícius said on Instagram, along with the Spanish league's slogan "It's not soccer, it's LaLiga."
Vinícius had called the referee around the 70th minute and started pointing to a person sitting among the Valencia supporters. The player went near the stands and confronted the fans while players from both teams tried to restore calm.
Police eventually arrived in the stands to deal with the supporters. An announcement was made asking fans to behave.
The match at Mestalla was stopped for about seven minutes, and not long after it resumed Vinícius clashed with Valencia players and was sent off for pushing one of his opponents away with a hand to his face.
After the decision of his ejection was made following a video review, Vinícius started applauding ironically. As he was leaving the field, he made a "going down" gesture over relegation. That upset players on the Valencia bench and some charged toward Vinícius as he left the field, causing the game to be temporarily stopped again.
Valencia coach Rubén Baraja condemned the behavior of Valencia fans but also criticized Vinícius, saying he should have respected the club and its supporters.
Vinícius' teammate Dani Ceballos criticized the fans but said he also expected Vinícius to apologize for his gestures after being sent off.
Ancelotti said Vinícius' reaction was normal considering what he had gone through moments earlier.
The Spanish league said it has requested images from the game to investigate what happened. It will also probe possible insults against Vinícius outside Mestalla, when a large group of fans also allegedly called the player a monkey as the Madrid bus arrived.
League president Javier Tebas criticized Vinícius for attacking the league without fully understanding what it has done recently to combat racism, and saying the player didn't show up for talks on the subject that he had requested himself.
The league has made nine formal complaints over racist abuse against Vinícius over the last two seasons, with many of the cases being shelved. A Mallorca fan may end up going on trial after allegedly racially insulting the Brazilian during a game.
President Luiz Inácio Lula da Silva joined a wave of Brazilian politicians, players and clubs coming out to support Vinícius and criticize racism in the Spanish league.
Lula told a news conference in Japan on the sidelines of a G7 meeting that he hopes FIFA, the Spanish League and other soccer bodies "take measures so we don't allow racism and fascism to take over" in the sport.
The first trial against a fan accused of racial abuse in Spanish professional soccer is expected to happen at some point this year in a case involving Athletic Bilbao forward Iñaki Williams, who was insulted by an Espanyol supporter in a match in 2020.
1 year ago
Another DU BCL activist accused of abusing girls
Fahim Tajwar Joy, a prominent activist of the ruling party student front Bangladesh Chhatra League Masterda Surja Sen Hall Chhatra League of Dhaka University has been accused of molesting a woman and her husband and looting money from them in front of central Shahid Minar.
In this regard, a case has been filed accusing Fahim and 10-12 unnamed people who participated in the looting.
Principal administrative Officer, Md. Abdul Motaleb, of Masterda Surja Sen Hall lodged the case against Fahim at the Shahbagh police station as his niece and her husband were the victims.
According to the complaint letter, "Riya and her husband Rasel were on the way to visit Abdul Motaleb's house from nearby Chawkbazar at 11 pm of February 4. When they were crossing throughout the frontier road of Shahid Minar, Fahim and his friends blocked their way, abused them verbally and beat them with sticks. At one point they took Rasel at the backside of Shahid Minar and snatched all money from him which counts TK 22000 and then they snatched ATM cards from him."
"They also molested my niece," the complaint said.
"Being informed, when my son Mehrab went to rescue them, Fahim and his friends beat me badly. Later, surrounding people came and saved us from them."
Contacted, OC of Shahbagh police station, Noor said, "We have received the case and we will investigate the matter."
Mentioned, Fahim is a posted member of Masterda Surja Sen Hall Chhatra League and follower of Abdulla Khan Shoisob who is a follower of Dhaka University Chhatra League General secretary Tanbir Hasan Saikat. Moreover, he is a student of department of History of 2021-22 session.
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1 year ago
‘Some abuses are reported while implementing any new law’
Law Minister Anisul Huq has said the government remains vigilant to stop any misuse or abuse of the Digital Security Act (DSA), noting that some abuses are reported while implementing any new law in any country in the world.
The issue of amendment to the law comes when there are abuses and the government is trying to plug in the places where there is scope of abuse and misuse, he said.
"If there is a necessity for any amendment, we will do that," said the Law Minister.
He, however, said bringing amendments to any law is a lengthy process and the government may go for shortening the process by introducing relevant rules.
The Law Minister was speaking at a debate on DSA, moderated by Editors Guild President and Editor-in-Chief of Ekattor Television Mozammel Babu on Saturday.
Minister Huq said a perception regarding the DSA has been created and the government is aware of it.
He said the government is listening to all and trying to address the issues. “We are trying to solve the problem. Our ears are not closed.”
After identifying certain cases of misuse and abuse through the DSA in 2019, the Law Minister said he tried to find out other countries where such laws exist and also contacted the Office of the UN Human Rights Commission.
"We are still discussing the good practices,” he said, adding that he even sat with the Home Minister and decided that the journalists will not be arrested right away.
The Law Minister said when a complaint is lodged, a cell will decide whether or not there is prima facie proof that an offence has been made under the law.
The Law Minister referred to the law regarding punishment for making any kind of propaganda or campaign against liberation war, spirit of Liberation War, Father of the Nation, national anthem or national flag.
“Was it necessary to protect? Yes, it was necessary,” he said, adding that it hurts him when someone says 30 lakh people did not sacrifice their lives during the Bangladesh's War of Liberation in 1971.
“It (such distortion of settled history) does not just bring tears in my eyes, it seems to me that someone hit on my chest,” he added.
The Law Minister also questioned those who made room for war criminals like Motiur Rahman Nizami and Ali Ahsan Mohammad Mujahid in the cabinet.
Human rights activist advocate ZI Khan Panna, cultural personality Nasiruddin Yousuff Bachchu, Regional Director for ARTICLE 19 South Asia and Bangladesh Faruq Faisel, filmmaker Kamar Ahmad Simon, Prothom Alo joint editor Sohrab Hassan and journalist Syed Ishtiaque Reza, among others, spoke at the discussion.
2 years ago
JU student accused of abuse, assault against fellow students
A female student of Jahangirnagar University (JU) has been accused of physically assaulting a male student. The accused student is Sumaiya Binte Ekram, a 46th batch student of Anthropology Department, a residential student of Pritilata Hall .
The incident took place in Battala area of the university around 8.30 pm on Monday. The victim student said, "I was walking on Battala road with some of my friends. Later Sumaiya bint Ekram came from behind and charged me why I did not leave the road .Later Sumaiya bint Ekram attacked me for telling her that 70% of the road was empty and she started scolding me in inaudible language and I left the place."
Ayesha Siddique Nipa, a student of government and politics department, who witnessed the incident, said, "Six of us were walking on the left side of Battala Road. Then two unfamiliar girls were arrogantly passing us on the right side. Again they said in a loud voice that you can't walk on the side of the road. Then one of us said the road is empty. At this time, a girl started shouting incoherently and swearing in vulgar language. Then we endured all this and left the place. '
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Another eyewitness, Kazi Vijay, said, "Half an hour after the incident, a friend of the accused called us at a food shop in Battala. At that time we were describing the details of the incident. But suddenly the accused student came from behind and slapped my classmate on the cheek and physically assaulted him. The accused's friend Diganta then went to another shop with her."
The proctorial body of the university later arrived at the scene at ten o'clock. At that time they brought the accused and the plaintiffs to the proctor's office.
The victim said, "I did not utter a word of disrespect to her. But the girl was repeatedly behaving arrogantly in front of everyone. At one point, she suddenly hit me. '
Shihab Khan Diganta, a 43rd batch of the drama and drama theory department, a friend of the accused, said, "I was present there and tried to reconcile."
But he failed.
Assistant Proctor Associate Professor Tajuddin Sikder said, "The university administration has asked for 24 hours. One has to start a process to judge an event. Disciplinary committee meeting has to be held. This requires time. The whole incident is uncomfortable for us. It is hoped that this will be a fair solution. The administration is sincere in this regard."
READ: JU students asked to leave halls
Prof. Abdullah Hale Kafi, Prof. Sohail Ahmed, Prof. Motahar Hossain, Prof. Akbar Hossain, Prof. Ayesha Siddique, President of JU Branch Chhatra League Akhtaruzzaman Sohel, General Secretary Habibur Rahman Liton and others were present at the Proctor's office.
The accused student said, "They were doing different gestures which seemed unbearable to me. He wanted to hit me. At one point they were calling me a drug addict. They have slandered me. At one point, when I went out of tolerance, I slapped him and it happened very quickly."
2 years ago
Uighurs: China bans UK MPs after abuse sanctions
China has imposed sanctions on nine UK citizens - including five MPs - for spreading what it called "lies and disinformation" about the country.
The group are among the most vocal critics of China in the UK.
It comes in retaliation for measures taken by the UK government on Monday over human rights abuses against the Uighur Muslim minority group, reports BBC
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Boris Johnson said those sanctioned were "shining a light" on "gross human rights violations".
"Freedom to speak out in opposition to abuse is fundamental and I stand firmly with them," the prime minister said in a tweet.
The foreign secretary said if Beijing wanted to "credibly rebut" the claims it should allow UN access to Xinjiang.
Those targeted by China include former Conservative leader Sir Iain Duncan Smith, two peers, a lawyer and an academic.
Sir Iain said he would wear the sanctions "as a badge of honour".
The response by China follows similar sanctions imposed on the European Union, which was part of the co-ordinated action on Monday, along with the UK, the US and Canada.
China has detained Uighurs at camps in the north-west region of Xinjiang, where allegations of torture, forced labour and sexual abuse have emerged.
It has denied the allegations of abuse, claiming the camps are "re-education" facilities used to combat terrorism.
Tory MPs Sir Iain, Nusrat Ghani and Tim Loughton, and peers Baroness Kennedy and Lord Alton, who are all members of the Inter-Parliamentary Alliance on China
Tory MPs Tom Tugendhat and Neil O'Brien, who lead the China Research Group
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Lawyer Sir Geoffrey Nice QC, chair of the Uighur Tribunal, which is investigating atrocities against the minority group
Newcastle University academic Jo Smith Finley, whose research focuses on the Uighurs
They will all be banned from entering China, Hong Kong and Macau, their property in China will be frozen and Chinese citizens and institutions will be prohibited from doing business with them.
Sir Iain said: "Those of us who live free lives under the rule of law must speak for those who have no voice. If that brings the anger of China down upon me then I shall wear that as a badge of honour."
Mr Tugendhat, who chairs the Commons Foreign Affairs Committee, told the BBC: "I view this as a direct assault on British democracy and an attempt to silence the British people who have chosen me to speak for them."
He added that the government had been too soft on China, which he said had been "constantly and continuously seeking to intervene" in the internal matters of the UK.
Ms Ghani told BBC Radio 4's Today programme the move was a "wake-up call" for democratic countries, that China would sanction law-makers who were just doing their job.
She added: "I won't be intimidated. This has now made me even more determined to speak out about the Uighurs."
Academic Dr Smith Finley tweeted: "I have no regrets for speaking out, and I will not be silenced."
Lord Alton said: "The imposition of tit-for-tat sanctions is a crude attempt to silence criticism," adding that the "first duty of a parliamentarian is to use their voice on behalf of those whose voices have been silenced".
3 years ago
Rape, abuse in Palm oil fields linked to top beauty brands
With his hand clamped tightly over her mouth, she could not scream, the 16-year-old girl recalls – and no one was around to hear her anyway. She describes how her boss raped her amid the tall trees on an Indonesian palm oil plantation that feeds into some of the world’s best-known cosmetic brands. He then put an ax to her throat and warned her: Do not tell.
4 years ago
Daughter of man accused of killing 8 describes his abuse
The daughter of a Mississippi man on trial in the shooting deaths of eight people testified Monday that he was abusive and beat her frequently.
4 years ago