If you wish a handsome prince will come one day and relieve you from all your sufferings and miseries, maybe you are suffering from Cinderella Syndrome or Cinderella Complex. It refers to a psychological disorder in which a woman fears true independence and secretly expects a hero, knight or prince will come to take care of her. Women with Cinderella Complex have the signs of lack of self-esteem, confidence, anxiety, inability to function in the workplace. Check out here the tips to overcome it.
What Is the Cinderella Complex?
Cinderella Complex is a veiled desire to be saved by others, especially heroes or men. Author- Colette Dowling first used this concept in her book titled “The Cinderella Complex: Women’s Hidden Fear of Independence ''. This book was published in 1981. Here she feathers out the idea that women are lifted up to be dependent, and this insentient need to be secured and saved leads to a constant inclination to vandalize success and happiness.
Like Cinderella, the sufferer of Cinderella Complex believes that she needs an outside force to save the day in danger, deeming her own intellect and hard work. In fact, this term is applicable to anyone of any gender, who waits for other people to be saved in lieu of their own ability to fight. Cinderella Complex can happen mentally, financially, or emotionally if you want someone else to take care of you.
Symptoms that You Have Cinderella Syndrome
Sometimes it is seen that even independent women may experience signs of Cinderella complex. Although there is no absolute list of Cinderella complex, a woman with this complex may:
- Depend on her partner’s choices and decisions
- Feel anxious and nervous living on her own
- Find it tough or absurd to make major life decisions on her own
- Feeling difficult to support herself or hold a job
- Like to play the traditional role of homemaker and mother
- Prefer to have a romantic partner
- Carry a strong desire always to be taken care of
Some women with Cinderella complex feel that their parents mistreat or neglect them. They also compare their life with fairytales. These women may wish for a rescuer—a Prince Charming—to arrive and take care of them.